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Oct 19, 2022Liked by Leandra Medine Cohen

The appendages are like medical school/therapy/boot camp/picnics/buddhas/comics…

It’s so unreal isn’t it?

Beautiful & authentic reflections..

One

Foot

In

Front

Of the other

All 8 feet moving along in some sort of harmony family🪬🪬❤️❤️

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Parenting is so. fucking. hard. It's physically and emotionally draining. And you're up against all these phony representations of how beautiful and funny it is that deny the reality of it and make you feel wrong and isolated and broken. IT'S SO HARD! You love them so much but also you have to close a door and scream your head off. I could only make him know he was loved. That was all. I could not otherwise be good at it. And I needed to go to an office. And that didn't change how fiercely I loved and love him.

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Hi Leandra. I analyze everything too. You must realize you are such a good mom. Most of us are because we try our best, and our best is all we can do. I regret some things about my past sometimes, but don't dwell anymore. When we do stupid stuff in regard to our kids, apologize to them, and then apologize again. They know you are flawed and love you intensely anyway. Why are you so hard on yourself? Why don't you treat yourself the same way you treat your best friends? Please let it go and embrace yourself, flaws and all. You are an amazing, funny, interesting, intelligent fashionista who deserves love. make sure you get your alone time, its key to keeping our sanity. Much love to you. ♥️

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❤️ It’s so damn hard. One day at a time. Be kind to yourself (when you can) just like you would to your girls. I like something that Susan David says, “pretend your life is a comedy and not a tragedy”. Easier said than done, but helpful for a reframe.

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You know I relate to you being hard on yourself/not being able to let go of one's faults and failures/mistakes at times, or they come back to haunt you later, and I am not even a parent yet. I do have many a friend with children and I think it falls down to the simple fact of that you just want them to be good people and you want to help them get there by also being what they need while still maintaining your own needs and identity. It's a lot. They are new here and are trying to push boundaries as they learn and grow into themselves as well. I know there is more to it, though you are new too. Being a parent is something we do not know until we go through it ourselves. Being alone is not necessarily a bad thing, though being lonely and feeling alone are different. One of the worst feelings is loneliness when you are not physically alone. The life is the prize, there is no competition really for who did it best, we end up in a box in some way or another and life goes on. Not to be morbid, though it's true. Just because you feel your parents lacked in what they didn't provide, I have found focusing on what they did/do, even inadvertently or subconsciously, has helped me move forward in a way I never expected. Also, sometimes them not providing something to you is also a gift, it made you more resilient, creative, and supportive, etc... I feel so cliche lately, though they always say the breakdown leads to the breakthrough and that is another cycle that will keep going. It is growth. We are supposed to be a little weird. I know you know and you make it seem so effortless that you are so comfortable in your own skin when it comes to fashion and life in general. I agree that when we get comfortable in a certain level, the level up, upgrade or even just shift in another direction can be jarring and uncomfortable in a way we are not used to. Not being perfect right away can be a bit of a let down, though being bad, so to speak, at something new is the most normal thing. Enjoy the moment because that is where we are at right now. Even if it is during a moment of losing it. Being able to to lose it in a healthy way after a rough day/moment can be something to be grateful for. After I realized I was beating myself up over a mistake I made, I then beat myself up over not enjoying myself during something I had been looking forward to for weeks because I was upset with myself. Not in a dramatic way, I was just disappointed. Down, I guess you would say. I can usually snap out of it pretty quickly, though it all seems a little heavy lately. I think we are all collectively in that space in some way. You are present and that is the most important thing and that is why you feel a bit nutty. It is nutty. It's real. Thank you. xx

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