You got it early , be proud of yourself , It took me becoming a godmother 24 years ago and realizing I couldn't give Katie the day she deserved once a week if I was holding my blackberry . That prepared me perfectly for being a grandmother , the oldest grandchild turned five in August and the hours I spend with Rider , Nash , Niko , Paz and Theo without my phone are the hours that count .
My son is two, and i absolutely notice that I snap at him when I’m allowing the little nuisance items on my to do list - or even the relatively important things like professional obligations - become more important than being his mother. It’s not that I subscribe to the idea that Parenthood Always Comes First No Matter What, but I am aware that I won’t always have the opportunity to hold his hand and go very slowly down the stairs, stopping to examine every maddening little piece of lint. It’s so frustrating! It’s so precious!
I’ve also never heard anyone else talk about that little high you get when you manage to tick off the entire to-do list and then go for a run, too. As an overachiever, I chase that I DID IT feeling and hate the brain fog that creeps in when the stars unalign. But, I’m starting to see its true role in my life, which is gold-medal disassociation.
Ah, I love this and you so much. I have found when you don't slow down life forces you to in some way or another. I agree on the usual distractions not being the same anymore though I am feeling like a baby learning to walk in finding what does work for me now, when the usual does not. I have guilt too, in not being as productive or with me being so in it I make a mistake I do not usually do and that monster of perfectionism rears it's ugly head. Or just taking a moment for myself, whatever that may be. How am I going to survive as a parent? 🤦😅
To your last question here, I think that’s the sum of the entire equation. I don’t think what a person has to do in a day should necessarily change (it goes back to my comment about wanting for deep
Spiritual connection but also to remain a part of the material world) but I do believe that there is a slowness that does not give a shit about linear time that you can access as you move through it. Gorgeous insights as always ❤️
Yeah, I think in a sense they do although I’d challenge the comment that being busy helps us deal with life bc I actually believe it helps us DO life. When we pursue business to avoid hard feelings or pain that is something else completely
You got it early , be proud of yourself , It took me becoming a godmother 24 years ago and realizing I couldn't give Katie the day she deserved once a week if I was holding my blackberry . That prepared me perfectly for being a grandmother , the oldest grandchild turned five in August and the hours I spend with Rider , Nash , Niko , Paz and Theo without my phone are the hours that count .
This was SO well written and spoke directly to me like a sermon. Brilliant and perfectly explains ME. Thank you.
My son is two, and i absolutely notice that I snap at him when I’m allowing the little nuisance items on my to do list - or even the relatively important things like professional obligations - become more important than being his mother. It’s not that I subscribe to the idea that Parenthood Always Comes First No Matter What, but I am aware that I won’t always have the opportunity to hold his hand and go very slowly down the stairs, stopping to examine every maddening little piece of lint. It’s so frustrating! It’s so precious!
I’ve also never heard anyone else talk about that little high you get when you manage to tick off the entire to-do list and then go for a run, too. As an overachiever, I chase that I DID IT feeling and hate the brain fog that creeps in when the stars unalign. But, I’m starting to see its true role in my life, which is gold-medal disassociation.
I loved this, thank you.
So beautifully captured—I feel this. Thank you.
~ Mom to a 7 and 4 year old
Ah, I love this and you so much. I have found when you don't slow down life forces you to in some way or another. I agree on the usual distractions not being the same anymore though I am feeling like a baby learning to walk in finding what does work for me now, when the usual does not. I have guilt too, in not being as productive or with me being so in it I make a mistake I do not usually do and that monster of perfectionism rears it's ugly head. Or just taking a moment for myself, whatever that may be. How am I going to survive as a parent? 🤦😅
Thank you for this. xx
I hear ya
To your last question here, I think that’s the sum of the entire equation. I don’t think what a person has to do in a day should necessarily change (it goes back to my comment about wanting for deep
Spiritual connection but also to remain a part of the material world) but I do believe that there is a slowness that does not give a shit about linear time that you can access as you move through it. Gorgeous insights as always ❤️
Yeah, I think in a sense they do although I’d challenge the comment that being busy helps us deal with life bc I actually believe it helps us DO life. When we pursue business to avoid hard feelings or pain that is something else completely