Mazel tov! I really applaud your candor and attitude about your struggles…for some reason, I have been following some people who have had similar journeys…don’t know why exactly,
since I am at the opposite stage of life (I’m a grandmother) ,but I found a few of them interesting. Not everyone can look at this type of issue with your insight…I hope your thoughts can be a comfort to some who are looking for a way to handle their feelings.
I think it might have something to do with it being the second go-around. After I had my daughters, I felt a little silly for having been SO MISERABLE. But I also knew I couldn’t have helped it at the time. I needed the perspective, and probably a bit of maturity. Anyway, thanks for this note!
Of course…it is different for each woman and each situation…and I don’t pretend to have ANY insight, having never gone through it myself. I am lucky, but I think your explanation and perspective can be a help and path for others who can’t seem to dig themselves out of the hole. Misery is so understandable, and can be a continuous cycle…you explain how it can change.
Congrats on your pregnancy! I'm almost 16 weeks with my first, conceived by surprise "naturally" after 5 failed rounds of IVF, being told we were out of options, and a lot of anger/sadness. Appreciate what you said about not having to sustain loyalty to your pain (although sometimes I have needed to really feel it, and that's okay, too).
I agree with you re feeling pain. Sometimes it also brings you closer to yourself. I don’t think sustaining loyalty to it is the same. You have to feel the thing to let it pass through you so it doesn’t bottle neck. But trying to sober yourself when you *are* feeling okay was really the thing I noticed. I am glad you are on the other side now!
Mazel tov! I really applaud your candor and attitude about your struggles…for some reason, I have been following some people who have had similar journeys…don’t know why exactly,
since I am at the opposite stage of life (I’m a grandmother) ,but I found a few of them interesting. Not everyone can look at this type of issue with your insight…I hope your thoughts can be a comfort to some who are looking for a way to handle their feelings.
I think it might have something to do with it being the second go-around. After I had my daughters, I felt a little silly for having been SO MISERABLE. But I also knew I couldn’t have helped it at the time. I needed the perspective, and probably a bit of maturity. Anyway, thanks for this note!
Of course…it is different for each woman and each situation…and I don’t pretend to have ANY insight, having never gone through it myself. I am lucky, but I think your explanation and perspective can be a help and path for others who can’t seem to dig themselves out of the hole. Misery is so understandable, and can be a continuous cycle…you explain how it can change.
Congrats on your pregnancy! I'm almost 16 weeks with my first, conceived by surprise "naturally" after 5 failed rounds of IVF, being told we were out of options, and a lot of anger/sadness. Appreciate what you said about not having to sustain loyalty to your pain (although sometimes I have needed to really feel it, and that's okay, too).
Congratulations!! Hope you are feeling well
I agree with you re feeling pain. Sometimes it also brings you closer to yourself. I don’t think sustaining loyalty to it is the same. You have to feel the thing to let it pass through you so it doesn’t bottle neck. But trying to sober yourself when you *are* feeling okay was really the thing I noticed. I am glad you are on the other side now!
Absolutely, both mindsets are useful depending on the context. Thank you!
Thank you for sharing. I am continuously inspired by your writing, and the way you show the connectivity of life and clothing/style.
A rainbow baby :-) So many congratulations 💞
Congratulations Leandra! So happy for you. Thank you for sharing your experience and wisdom, as always. Hugs!
It’s not a surprise that such speacial news comes in one of your most beautiful and enlighted essays ✨
CONGRATULATIONS ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Congrats and I so appreciate your writings
Mazel Tov- so thrilled for you!!!
Mazeltov! I have tears in my eyes when you said you were 18 weeks pregnant. X
I just love you, I am besotted with the gargantuan flower brooch, and I cannot wait to meet your new baby. Mazel tov:))))
Happy for you; this made me emotional. Thank you for sharing the non-pat story. Every time someone does, it means something.
You look beautiful, congratulations✨🤍✨
Beautiful news to hear as we begin spring 2024. Congratulations!!
Congratulations! The pregnant belly + belt is a winner, and I also really loved your perspective on mind-set and performing commitment. x
Congrats Leandra!! Super exciting!